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Quenton & Ely

Quenton & Ely

When I had to fly home to see my dying great grandmother, who I am very close to and is a huge part of my life even today, in May of 2018 I had no idea that she would tell her whole family that she was in actuality a Ukrainian Jew who left Ukraine in 1936 with her sister for a better life in Canada. Her aunt and uncle had come to Canada in 1905 to farm on the prairies and they would move in with them. She had kept her heritage a secret from all of us, because life was easier for non Jewish people. Her and her sister changed their names, adopted Christian faith practices in the Ukrainian Greek Catholic Church, a priest in their home town of Berezhany, Ukraine forged church documents for them, and they left to come to Canada. She came from a large Jewish family of 110 people; parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents and many cousins. They all perished in the Holocaust leaving her and her sister as the only survivors.

I am an ordained priest in the Anglican Church of Canada and I am currently serving as a military chaplain in the Canadian Armed Forces. With this new knowledge of our family, and realizing that I am Jewish on my Mother’s side of the family I began to process and wonder what this might look like or me. I am very fortunate that my wife and our two children, ages 4 and 1 have been so supportive of this new found information. As March of 2020 came with the beginning of a massive world shut down, an advertisement for Partners in Torah popped up on my Facebook page. So, naturally out of curiosity I explored the program online and applied for a partner. I was sent several options, and my partner that I chose, Ely Shilian, happened to be around my age, married with four kids living in Brooklyn NY. Once we connected, it was as if we had been friends our entire lives, we joke that we are probably brothers who were separated at birth. Our new found brotherhood has emerged in amazing conversations about Jewish faith, family life, studying Torah together, and how these many facets come together to make this amazingly rich life that Jewish culture is based from.

This year was particularly meaningful, thanks to my partner, in that we did not celebrate Advent like we have in years past leading up to Christmas, but instead, we celebrated our very first Hannukah with this phenomenal Hannukah care package from my partner and his family sent us. We had a menorah, dreidels, and lovely gifts that we all used. Included was a Jewish cook book that we made good use of over the holidays. We sent a Canadian themed Hannukah care package that included kippahs with a maple leaf on the top, I had one made for myself too. Maple Leaf cookies and maple leaf earrings for my partners wife and two daughters. It is our hope that once the Covid19 Pandemic is not so much a hinderance I can come to Brooklyn for a time to see what Jewish life is like with my partner. His oldest son is hopefully celebrating his Bar Mitzvah in March, I have naturally been invited, pending the safety of travel and the current pandemic. The to do list we have grows daily, we often talk once a day or every other day about all the things we want to tackle when we are able to meet finally face to face. To brother who can meet finally.

I never had any inclination that Partners in Torah, along with my partner, would have such a profound impact on my life as I am learning more about what it is to belong to such a rich heritage as is found in Judaism. Partners in Torah has allowed me to learn and I truly believe, that Judaism is the first of all religions that predicates its survival on education. Am I being educated on and embracing my new found Jewish heritage and faith more, definitely! And my partner has provided this positive welcoming environment for me to do so. I will always sing the praises of Partners in Torah; I recommend it to others any chance I get. Thank you very much for this amazing work you do, and I can’t thank you enough for allowing me to gain such an amazing, friend, brother and educator as my partner.

Tehila’s Story

Tehila’s Story

Submitted by Tehila Daveed

Imagine this –  It’s March 2007 and a  classroom of rowdy fourth graders is about to greet yet another new teacher.  Although this “problem classroom” may have been intimidating grounds for some, I was excited for the challenge, and happy to have a job after moving back to the States from Israel. 

I still remember so clearly! I walked into that classroom with confidence, introduced myself as Ms. Daveed, and became known as their “saving teacher.” I gave the students assignments and projects based on their interests and really worked hard to get to know each child. 

I remember there were twins in the grade; two sweet boys. One of them was in this class, he was a bit on the quiet side. It’s funny, I even remember where his seat was in the classroom! I recall doing my best to help him thrive, and even have memories of meeting his parents at parent-teacher conferences.

One of the reasons why I remember their mother, Tammy Lovy, is because she also worked at the school.  A few years later, when my daughter also began teaching in this school, she actually worked with Tammy in the Early Childhood Department. They became friendly, and when my daughter got married, Tammy came to the wedding! I didn’t really think much about my acquaintance with Tammy, whom I hadn’t heard of in years. Until… fast forward to a few months ago…

I didn’t really think much about my acquaintance with Tammy, whom I hadn’t heard of in years. Until… fast forward to a few months ago…

Although I’m retired, I’m quite busy with a lot of commitments, but when I saw an advertisement for The Shabbat Learning program through Partners in Torah, I couldn’t resist signing up. “It’s just 3 weeks” I thought, “I can handle this!” 

Yet, when I logged on to register, I was frustrated by the sign-up form because it was asking me to select very specific times of availability! My schedule changes daily and I didn’t want to commit to a time I couldn’t stick to. So what did I do? I just randomly threw out a time and day: Wednesdays at 3pm.

Next thing I know, I get an email with the name of my new Partner: Tammy Lovy!

Honestly, the name sounded familiar but I couldn’t place her. I called my daughter and asked her, “Remind me, do I know a Tammy Lovy?” My daughter said, “Of course! She taught with me, and you taught one of her sons!”

When I called Tammy, we instantly made the connection! She hadn’t realized it was me because I registered for Partners in Torah with my English name, but as soon as I reminded her, we were so happy to reconnect!

The funniest part is that Tammy also had a hard time coming up with a time to select on the sign-up form, so she shared that she randomly chose a time: Wednesdays at 3pm!

It was clearly meant to be that we reconnect and learn together. We love our learning sessions, and I can’t believe that her boys are now 23 years old!